unpack your heart
I was talking to my best friend, who laughed mid-sentence and said about herself, "When did I become so cold? I guess after people hurt you, you just learn."
We are so easily affected by the harsh things people say to hurt us and by their cold, heartless actions, that we often forget that there’s still a lot of good in people - that there are still good people in this world.
There’s this guy I know who is genuinely nice and kind. If someone said something even remotely bad about him, you would never believe it because he is just that nice. I remember this one time I was playing games on his iPod and came across the “notes” application. I didn’t have this application, or any application for that matter, on my iPod because mine was a piece of shit, so I asked him if I could look at it. He quickly took his iPod away and made every excuse for me not to look at it. Naturally, I assumed he was hiding something bad from me, so I simply left it at that. The next morning, I found a note and a baked good in my mailbox (and laughed when I saw the snack). Turns out, what he was hiding was a poem he wrote about me for a class months prior but was too embarrassed about it. It sounds like bullshit, but as aforementioned, a guy like him is just that genuine you’d believe all the good things and none of the bad things. Besides, a poem so ratchetly beautiful as the one he wrote could never be made up like that on the spot.
Not everybody has bad intentions, is a cheater or liar, or seeks to use people for their own personal gain. There are still good people in the world, but if people were to become cold because of how others hurt them, then there would no longer be the good people that this world really needs.
So basically what I’m trying to say is the cliche quote “don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart” and don’t be an asshole. There’s always the possibility of people hurting you; get your shit together and give the next person a reason to keep having faith in humanity. A little bit of faith and love can go a long, long way. Change your perspective, you’d be surprised at what you find and see.