that’s a wrap
I get a lot of flack when it comes to my dating life. My guy friends back home joke around saying “Don’t worry, it won’t be long until someone new comes along,” and even go so far as to jokingly placing bets on how long it’ll be till then. I get a lot of flack because I “fall in love” too much. And perhaps you can even say it’s unfortunate that so much energy and feelings are put forth only for things to not end up working out in the end.
But the way I see it, what’s unfortunate is not taking chances because you’re afraid of how it won’t work out the way you want it to, or how it may not work out at all. Sure, maybe you’re dodging a bullet. But in doing so you’re also simultaneously missing chances of something that could be so amazingly wonderful.
So that’s fine by me - my guy friends back home can talk if they so choose to. But it’s funny really, because those giving me so much flack are the ones that when I’m back home with them, have Friday night sausage fests sitting in a circle with liquor and beer, moping about how single they are as they engage in conversations about who’s doing who and guessing how long a new couple will last.
My best friend said to me: we’re different because when you meet someone, you ask yourself ”how do I know he’s NOT the one?” and I’m asking myself “how do I know he IS the one?” You’ll find so many things that suggest that someone isn’t the one for you. I am not by any means saying that one should think that every person they date is “the one.” I just want to know, does it really have to be so complicated? Because there really is only one criterion to be met - unconditional love. It’s either there or it isn’t, so you ultimately decide to take a chance or pussy out in fear of hurt feelings. That’s your prerogative. But before you give me flack and feel anything less than happy for me, remember that at least I’m not living in fear or anxiety.
Besides, what isn’t a gamble nowadays anyway? A little faith goes a long way.