that’s a wrap

I get a lot of flack when it comes to my dating life. My guy friends back home joke around saying “Don’t worry, it won’t be long until someone new comes along,” and even go so far as to jokingly placing bets on how long it’ll be till then. I get a lot of flack because I “fall in love” too much. And perhaps you can even say it’s unfortunate that so much energy and feelings are put forth only for things to not end up working out in the end.

But the way I see it, what’s unfortunate is not taking chances because you’re afraid of how it won’t work out the way you want it to, or how it may not work out at all. Sure, maybe you’re dodging a bullet. But in doing so you’re also simultaneously missing chances of something that could be so amazingly wonderful. 

So that’s fine by me - my guy friends back home can talk if they so choose to. But it’s funny really, because those giving me so much flack are the ones that when I’m back home with them, have Friday night sausage fests sitting in a circle with liquor and beer, moping about how single they are as they engage in conversations about who’s doing who and guessing how long a new couple will last.

My best friend said to me: we’re different because when you meet someone, you ask yourself ”how do I know he’s NOT the one?” and I’m asking myself “how do I know he IS the one?” You’ll find so many things that suggest that someone isn’t the one for you. I am not by any means saying that one should think that every person they date is “the one.” I just want to know, does it really have to be so complicated? Because there really is only one criterion to be met - unconditional love. It’s either there or it isn’t, so you ultimately decide to take a chance or pussy out in fear of hurt feelings. That’s your prerogative. But before you give me flack and feel anything less than happy for me, remember that at least I’m not living in fear or anxiety.

Besides, what isn’t a gamble nowadays anyway? A little faith goes a long way.


25.the best

the best

24.Rita’s with great company

Rita’s with great company

joy in the little things

  • running into friends during a rough week
  • "good luck!" text messages
  • late night rendezvous
  • summer weather
  • cheese filled pretzels and extra large slushies
  • meaningful conversations
  • friends that remind you that not everyone is an asshole
  • friends that give you life
  • ordering too much cajun fries at Five Guys
  • but eating it all anyway
  • mama calling me “baby bear”
  • hugs
  • inside jokes, crazy conversations, and telepathic communication with my roomz
  • my wiener dog
  • those who know when to let it go, let it be, and live a little
  • McDonald’s 50 cent ice cream cones
  • Nachos
  • unexpected visits
  • Netflix
  • not having to set an alarm for the next day
  • beach
  • no drama
  • adventures and spontaneity 


best friend :)

22.Misery loves company

Misery loves company

The gospel is simple enough for the most uneducated person to embrace yet profound enough to keep the most intellectual person challenged for life.



I used to pray that God would feed the hungry, or do this or that, but now I pray that he will guide me to do whatever I’m supposed to do, what I can do. I used to pray for answers, but now I’m praying for strength. I used to believe that prayer changes things, but now I know that prayer changes us and we change things.

Mother Teresa